A key employee quits, a big client delays payment, a bank won’t renew your credit line… running a business is no easy feat. A crisis can pop up at any time, and as the owner, you are ultimately responsible for making sure it is handled. If you are lucky you have a great team who can handle a lot, but at the end of the day, the responsibility is on your shoulders. The ups and downs of entrepreneurship can be brutal, and these are not feelings you can easily share with anyone. Sometimes it is hard to even share those feelings with your spouse if they are also stressed over this new business endeavor.
My Therapy Story
In 2014 I experienced a very tough year, my relationship with business partner fell apart and I was diagnosed with a serious medical problem. I was lucky that I was part of a CEO peer group, they helped me with the crisis in the business and emotional support by just being there for me. I never thought about seeing a therapist, at the time I felt like I was underwater and just fighting to get air. After about nine months my future-wife asked me to see a therapist and I am so grateful she did. The therapist helped me gain perspective and process a lot of emotions that I had swept to the side while I tried to fix the business crisis. You can read my full story and experience with therapy here. I would urge any entrepreneur going through something to find a therapist and make time to sit down with them. I promise it will help!
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Click here and share your story with our community of entrepreneurs. There is still a stigma around therapy when there shouldn’t be. It is helpful to talk to someone who has no agenda and who you are paying to listen and help you see what you can’t see, or choose not to see. If you are in a bad place feel free to reach out to me too, I am happy to talk and share some stories.
Looking for further reading on this subject?
- One of the best articles about the crazy ride of starting and running a business is this one at Inc magazine. You have a founder who from the outside looks like the epitome of success, but underneath is struggling with debt, fear of impending failure, and stress. You can feel the tension in his marriage as they find out they are expecting their first child during the middle of booting up this struggling business. A lot of entrepreneurs chime in throughout the article to talk about what they went through at different points in their entrepreneurial journey as well.
- Ben Hugh has a deeply personal piece called “When Death Feels Like A Good Option“. It doesn’t get more real than that.
- Stephen Fry’s piece on his struggle after trying to kill himself is also a very good read. With a short amount of words, he tackles the core of some incredibly dark thoughts.