Entrepreneur Life

The personal side of starting and running a business.

Yep, I have seen a Therapist a few times, and each experience was helpful.

In 2014 I had a year from hell, my relationship with my business partner disintegrated, I was told I had cancer, tumors, or Crohn’s disease (in that order), and I got diagnosed with an annular disc tear and couldn’t do any sports other than walking and swimming for 9 months. I was a wreck and just barely keeping it together. I was dating my future wife at the time and also got engaged and married that year. I wish I had thought about getting some help earlier, but I was so out of wack I did not even see it as an option. My future wife asked me to go late in the year about 10 months into it and I wish I had gone so much sooner.

I went for about 6 weeks and it was so helpful in processing all the emotions and thoughts. I wish I had gone when everything started. The only reason I stopped going is my wife and I moved abroad. As soon as I got back to the USA I did another 12 weeks with someone, just to make sure everything was settled. It was also a really good experience. I highly recommend it. At the very worst it is someone to talk too and help you hold up a mirror to what you are going through.

My biggest worry was that I would not have any time to work on my businesses or new business ideas, and that I would get frustrated with myself or possibly take it out on my family/son.

I am one year in and I am glad to report that none of those worries came true. I have plenty of time for my family and my business. And, with a little help from babysitters, my wife and I are feeling pretty good about our routine. It also helps that as an entrepreneur my time is flexible so if I want to take him on a stroller ride in the middle of the day I can, and then work when he is sleeping.

Where did I get this worry? This was driven by a lot of negativity from people around me who were not entrepreneurs but were working full time. They were super negative about how hard it was to do both work and kids. I got pretty depressed right before the birth because everyone was so negative about how hard it was, how little sleep you got, and how little time you have to do anything. I am only 6 months in but sleep and time has been great so far. I am currently working to launch a new business and I am confident it can be done :).