The biggest thing I changed was making a concerted effort to separate my home and work spaces. Pre kids, I spent a LOT of time working at home and my personal life and work life blended seamlessly. This wasn’t an issue because really love what I do and so spending a lot of my “home” time working was just an extension of what I love.
Once we had kids – and especially once they got to the 1-year old stage – I had to make some changes. I didn’t want to be that Dad who was always on the phone, always saying “one second!” and making my kids feel like they had to fight with technology for my attention. I also wasn’t a big fan of being on a call for my business and having the other person hear a kid screaming bloody murder in the background. 🙂
So I got an office outside of the home. Now, when I work, I work HARD in a separate space and get as much done as possible. When I’m home, I’m HOME. Not working, not checking my phone every 2 minutes, but trying my best to be available for my kids. I’m not perfect at this, but having the two spaces helps tremendously at being a better Dad and a better entrepreneur and I’d highly recommend it.
Spending money on a regular babysitter to go out with my wife is some of (if not THE) best money you can spend after you have kids.
You get so busy with kids and work that it’s really, really easy for your relationship to not get prioritized like you want it to. And in today’s kid-centric culture it’s a hard thing to fight.
But you know what’s more important than playdates, making progress at your work or even seeing your kids every single day? Spending time with your spouse. I’ve heard it said that the best thing you can do for your kids is to have a great relationship with your wife/husband/partner and I think it’s 100% the truth.
So spend more than you think you need on childcare and making sure you get regular time to connect and recharge without being distracted by the pull of your kids. It’ll be some of the best money you ever invest. 🙂